The Stupidest Women say

that rape is the girl's fault. I was shocked, to find out that some girls believe that rape and abuse is the girl's fault. According to a classmate of mine, "the girl should know better and back out of the situation." Excuse me. Really? That classmate of mine (a girl, I might add) believed that because a girl didn't back out of the relationship, she incurred whatever she got. Sadly, a girl who was most likely abused was in the class. She almost started crying. It was terribly sad.
Let's talk about how rape and sexual abuse is NOT the girl's fault. Men are generally stronger, that is the most terrifyingly real fact. It is so easy to overpower someone, especially when the person is so much stronger than their victim. Its also extremely easy to overpower someone with words. Take a girl looking for love. If a guy convinces her that he loves her, he has complete power over her. I've heard horrifying stories of that happening; of the girl being desperate, the guy sweet talking her, and the physically and sexually abusing her after kidnapping her. How is that her fault? Is it her fault because she trusted him? That's crazy. That would mean that no one should trust another person because everyone has the potential to be crazy horrible.
Ways to avoid such things happening, beyond not trusting someone, well there aren't any. That is why its so scary. There is virtually no way to predict what could happen. That case I mentioned earlier about the abducted girl? They were dating for several years before he abducted her. I think the best advice I can give anyone, dating wise, is to sincerely listen to people's warnings. If the guy's friends are saying to get out of the relationship, gtfo (more than likely). They know him, they have known him for longer than you. They can give you a fairly good warning. I know that from experience. Obviously, there are exceptions but I'd give a fair ear. Also along those lines, don't date someone because you're flattered that the guy asked you out. Don't live in awe and have respect for yourself. Obviously, again, this is advice is occasionally not accurate. People told me to break up with one of my boyfriend's and he was one of the sweetest guys I know (but shhh, he doesn't want anyone to know haha). That's dating advice on how to possibly avoid a bad guy. In my opinion, from my experience. Oh, one last thing. Don't always listen to your parents. They have your best interests at heart and most of the time they get it right but sometimes they're very wrong. They don't always know the specifics of the relationship. I was in a bad relationship and my parents didn't want me to break up with the guy. They thought he was nice and didn't believe me when I told them he was bad to me. Guys can be real suave sometimes. I guess what I'm trying to get down to is to always listen to everyone but the choice is ultimately up to you.
Don't EVER blame someone for them being hurt, though. Including yourself. The victim doesn't "ask" for it or whatever the excuse might be. They could be so careful, the guy could appear so sweet, but there might be something else.

Creativity and Self-Improvement

The most incredible feat is to work to better oneself. If something is difficult for you, work on it. Make it part of your life until it is no longer difficult. If you're bad at writing, write until your writing improves. If you're bad at math, work the problems until your mind is numb. I have a friend who (falsely) thought she was bad at writing. So she started writing in a diary, every day. Not only did it help her work on her arguments for papers but she also discovered things about herself. Not only is it admirable to do so, but it really does make you a better person.
Knowing this, why would anyone not try to work on themselves? I honestly can hardly think of it. Is it because the person is afraid of the unknown? Or is it because they want to be special and tell everyone what they can't do? That last seems plausible to me. It would be kind of like a badge "I can't do something that you can do. Isn't that hilarious? Its so easy!" If its so easy, then why not try it?